Van ghogh style vas

Hi everyone,

This is what I have painted today. It's a Van Ghog style VAS. Acrylic on canvas. Well do let me know your suggestions and feedback on this please.

Hi guys,
Sorry for writing after long off. But last year was a lot eventful for me so I hardly get time for blogging. Moreover I was with my parants for such a long period after 12 years and I wanted to be with them fully. by now you must hv guessed Yes, we are blessed with a sweet baby boy. We have named him Yashraj. So Yashraj and other household chores are keeping me busy. First time I am enjoying to be a dedicated mother and a full time wife. I guess my husband is loving it too as he is getting more attention than When I was full time working.

Well, that's enough for today. I sign off with the promise to be available on this space soon and more frequently. Hugs and kisses.

Book review - The oath of Vayuputras

The third installment of Amish’s Shiva trilogy is “The oath of Vayuputras”. The book is thicker than the previous installments. It is full of drama, wars and packed with emotions. The story takes turn once Bruhaspati has a chat with Shiva on why he went underground for 5 years and Shiva discovers Somras is the evil. Though it allows Meluhans to live longer, the remains or the waste of Somras is very harmful to mankind and overall environment. As Shiva is perceived as the Neelkanth who is a destroyer of evil takes on a mission to eradicate Somras. Most of the pages are full of wars and its over the top descriptions, though a sequence of Sati’s last battle is explained nicely . Though the name of the book is “The oath of Vayuputras”, the Vayuputras come into picture at the last 25% part of the book and no great revelation is made after Shiva discovers Vayuputras. The clunky language which was also used in previous two books continues in this book as well. But the credit must be given to Amish for his vast scope of imagination and linking the mythology, Hindu beliefs to his plot. Amish has given due credit to his female characters, we can easily sense the sheer joy of telling the story. In one of the conversation with Ayurvati where Sati denies the plastic surgery on her face to remind her of loss in battle, the conversation deviates to how Shiva feels about her scar. This conversation takes away the credibility from otherwise strong and independent portrayed Sati. Also Amish challenges the system of hereditary caste in Hindu religion but he does not challenge the entire caste system, the justification provided is, the caste was given to a person by their parents (King Daksha is given the lower caste by his father). Still if the caste is decided by parents and not by the qualities of individual. One of the villain Vidyunmali is captured by Shiva’s army which also includes Nagas and after couple of chapters he has escaped from them and has captured the good man. No explanation is given on how this happens.
Some of the half baked scientific justifications by Amish can’t convince reader to believe the plot. For example, the Bramhastra becomes Nuclear Fusion and Pashupati astra becomes Nuclear fission, these explanations are incompatible with what the science actually says, or what feasible engineering allows. Had Tripathi taken the easy way out, and resorted to actual magical explanations, or, to Processes too Complicated to Explain, it would have been easier for me to maintain my suspension of disbelief. The pseudo scientific explanations, though, ruined the book.

After reading “The immortals of Meluha” and “The secrete of Nagas”, I was expecting little better than this from Amish.

If you have to say something....I am listening:)

MJ on my canvas

If you have to say something....I am listening:)

Five terrible things couples do unintentionally in marriage

There are few things couples do unintentionally in marriage which harm your spouse. I feel It is very important to avoid below things as this is something we are doing unknowingly, decreasing our partner’s ability to grow personally and professionally.

1)      Making your spouse feel guilty

This tops my list of the lousy things couples do to each other. Feeling guilty about many things has long been seen as a female trait. For some reason, women try really hard to be 'great wives', 'great mothers' and 'great professionals' all rolled into one. Most women have a well developed guilt gene. We don't need men adding to it. 'Didn't you pay the electricity bill?' or 'Jesus! It cost 3000 bucks?' or 'Baby---Hasn't the house been cleaned today?' might sound like very innocent, matter-of-fact questions to a guy. But this is enough to send a woman's guilt complex into over-drive. Later, if you ask her, 'what's the matter? Was it something I said?' and she says 'No. Nothing', do not blame her.

We need to agree even women do make their husbands feel guilty or nitpick over small things.  So both needs to stop doing it.

2)      Getting in awe of your hotshot spouse

Most of us admire our spouse for their professional achievements. Well, isn’t it something we feel proud at? Of course feeling proud of spouse’s achievement is  great and natural. But singing the praise song all the time and getting in your spouse’s awe will make you unintentionally ignore the wrong things he/she might be doing. Spouse should be best critic of yours but for that they need to look at you beyond your profession. They should be one telling, look Honey, you are really great but this is something you are going WRONG. If this doesn’t happen you might be living in your own bubble with little chance to improve.

3)      Getting Overprotective and over pampering

Protecting and pampering is fine till it is restricted to moderate limits.” Sweetheart! why do you need to take a bus, wait till weekends I’ll take you to meet your aunt”  or “Order from outside, why do you need to take a pain of cooking Khichadi for the dinner” or” Baby, I am there to take care of our family, don’t exhaust yourself with the full time job, you can afford to be a house wife”. These might sound like a doting spouse’s statements but actually you are stopping your spouse from doing something which can add value to their life.  It’s okay if she travels her own to meet her aunt in different city or she takes your car for wash if she has time. And it is also okay if he is babysitting or cooking if you have to catch friends for a coffee. Overprotecting or over pampering your spouse can lead to their declining of confidence while interacting in society in long run.

4)      Laid back in your profession as your spouse is working

Nowadays it’s a DINK(Double Income No Kids) era. It surely provides us the luxurious life with little less effort.  I have seen my many friends taking job less serious after realising your partner is working great. But don’t forget, marriage is not a meal ticket. A working spouse should be taken as an opportunity to run after excellence and in the process if we make less money we have something to fall back. Having a working spouse makes us financially more secure, we can concentrate better on our profession. So actually it’s an opportunity to prepare for our desirable professional goal even if it involves little more risk.

5)      Not being honest while providing feedback

We seek feedback from each other on various points. May it be the new dress for office, the brand new painting you have just finished with or any incident in life. In the fear of breaking out darling’s heart, we don’t give the honest feedback  but we actually end up hurting their personality. As we don’t provide true opinion they don’t improve. Once we give feedback, we should not impose to follow it. It should be left to her/him to decide.

God’s delays are not his denials!

I came across the speech Rahul Dravid has delivered for the graduating students on the occasion of BITS Pilani convocation day.He referred this old saying "God’s delays are not his denials!" while describing his long wait to be selected in Indian squad.

The proverb above instantly resonates most of our feelings. There are situations in life when no matter how hard we are working, nothing actually works out.  Somethings are just beyond your control. Sometimes it’s delayed marriage, waiting for the desirable job or promotion in office, trying for a baby, it can be anything. It has happened to me, it has happened to most of us, perhaps it has happened to you as well.

Everything has it’s time. When we do not have control over things after giving our best for any cause we aim at, time gets tough. These are the testing times which may break us if we lose our patience and hope.  But these are also the times which prepare us for any tough situation in life. This is the opportunity to learn to be calm , composed and observe people around you, their approach towards you. We may come across many surprising facts, sometimes support comes from nowhere expected. These are also the opportunities to introspect, learn to be a better person and improve our mental strength.

In such situations we can rewind 5 years back of our own self. Don’t your worries of that time seems irrelevant today? And if there is something we have longed for and it has not come to us then may be there is something bigger and better in store which otherwise we would not have explored.

But Yes!

God’s delays are not his denials!

Time has its own way of taking care of everything. Just wait, watch and keep trying!

Book review - Cuckold

Reading Cuckold after “The Immortals of Meluha” was not a conscious decision. I was looking for Cuckold from many years and incidentally when I went to pick up the “The Secret of Nagas” I spotted “Cuckold” in the same shelf of the library. I just grabbed the book with no second thought. Cuckold made me realize the difference between the writer and the author. Cuckold is a brilliant piece of work by Kiran Nagarkar. As the pages unfold we go eager and deeper in the Rajput Prince Maharaj Kumar’s life. The novel is written in two persons.When Maharaj kumar is alone the novel is in first person. When Maharaj Kumar’s wife and great saint Meerabai is around the novel takes the third person view. The beauty of the novel lies in the simplicity and the scene writings of Author. Written with the strong command over language this incredible story gives you the flavour of everything that could have existed in 16^th Century, the palace life, eunuchs, Rajput wars, political Intrigues,etc. Though there are historical, powerful and important character like Meerabai, author has not taken away the focus from Maharaj Kumar.

Cuckold literally means someone with unfaithful wife. Ahhhh! I suddenly sense your rising interest in the book. Sorry to disappoint your perverted self, but it’s a story of a husband who’s young, beautiful wife has given her heart, soul and life to the Hindu God Krishna. The political scenario, people and their portrayal is also strong enough to believe the characters.

This book is fantastical, gritty, edgy, thrilling, hilarious, enlightening and heartbreaking all at once. I highly recommend it.